Wednesday, May 17, 2023

Who would've guessed it?

 

Jason used to say, "Don't worry honey.  It'll click for him someday."  Well, that "someday" happened in high school, and boy did he run with it.  On Saturday, Jack graduated from college with a major in Math and Education (he minored in Computer Science).  Not only did he graduate with the degree in math, but he did it Summa Cum Laude.  I cannot tell you how proud we were that he graduated, but that he graduated with a MATH degree.  His dad would've been so stinking proud of him.  

You see, Jack struggled in school.  And I mean STRUGGLED.  In 1st grade, his dad had to have a parent meeting with Jack's teacher because Jack kept stuffing his math papers (and only his math papers) in the back of his desk.  In upper elementary, we'd frantically finish MATH papers because he didn't turn them in.  He always had to stay for MATH tutoring in elementary and junior high.  Only in junior high when he realized that it helped him understand it better, did I not have to feel like the World's Worst mom for making him stay.  

In junior high, his 7th grade math teacher (and Navy veteran) helped him realize that tutoring wasn't so bad, and that people were willing to help you out if you showed the effort and that you cared.  In high school, his Offensive Line coach (who got his doctorate in math) and a couple of other math teachers helped him understand that he did truly know the math, he just needed the confidence.  His geometry teacher encouraged him to take Pre-AP Algebra, and his algebra teacher encouraged him to take Pre-AP Algebra III.  When he went to college to play football and pursue his degree, they placed him as an English major even though he thought he wanted to do math.  After a year of that, he decided English wasn't where his passion was and switched to math.  He truly took off after that.

As a Reading/Language Arts teacher, it was always amazing to hear him explain a concept to someone.  He has also begun looking at computer sciences and AI and built his own computer.  His dad and I always knew it would click for him.  And it did.

Monday, February 28, 2022

Shutting down the brain at night.

I know, based on my science classes, that the brain doesn't completely shut down at night.  That's why we dream.  However, sometimes, it would be nice if I didn't remember the dream.  I remember one conversation I had with my older sister about a dream she'd had that was really scary.  It was a little comical listening to the story, but I knew from experience that it was scary in the moment.  

The story goes...She was being chased by an unknown menace.  As she ran up the alley behind our house, she stopped and actually thought to herself..."Okay.  If this is a dream, I'll wake up."  And she stood there for a hot minute and waited.  When she didn't wake up she was like, "Oh well.  I guess this isn't a dream," and she continued running down the alley.

I have also heard that your brain will take ideas or emotions that you are experiencing at the time and incorporate them into your dream.  I understand the need for the brain to continue working, but when a dream leaves you emotionally drained when you wake up; that's defeating.  

There was no need for a Dream Translator last night.  With everything going on in the world and the need to convey an image of calm to my children so they don't panic with world events, my brain decided to express those worries in a dream last night.  If that were the only thing I was worried about, then the dream would've been less sad.  But it wasn't and my brain ran with it.  Darn thing!

I may need to look at doing Yoga or something before bed to help calm my brain.  Suggestion would be appreciated.

Monday, February 14, 2022

Part of the Parent Manual

There are times, as a parent, when I feel that I crushed the whole "parent thing".  But then, I'm reminded that there are certain lessons that would've been nice to know ahead of time.  Like, you have to teach your kids to skip, hop, run, and to say "please" and "thank-you".  I remember once, one of my kids asked, "Mom, do you now how to skip?"  That question took me by surprise because I seem to remember not ever knowing how to skip.  But then, I asked my mom if I had always skipped.  The reaction I got was a bit surprising.  She said, "Um no.  But watching you figure it out was quite the show."  That began a journey to learn which skills I needed to teach my kids and which ones would come "naturally".  

Now that they are about to venture out on their own, I'm left to ask myself, "Did I teach them everything I thought comes naturally?"  Thank goodness they aren't afraid to ask.  I got a call today from my daughter saying, "Now, I'm asking because I don't want to burn down the house..."  What was she asking about?  Whether or not a cast iron skillet was safe to put in the oven.  This led to... what items, besides metal you don't put in the microwave, what items you don't put in the oven.  My son has asked questions about depositing money, applying for a credit card, how that works, and when they apply interest.  I'm sure I'll get more of these types of questions, just to remind me that a Parent's Manual would've been nice.

Friday, February 4, 2022

There is some truth to the saying.

 When I was a new teacher, I would see veteran teachers retire. A few months or so after, one would come visit a colleague for lunch. Someone would always say something like, “Wow! They look GOOD. When they retired, they looked tired.” Someone else would always joke, “Yeah. Well. They retired.”  As I grew as a teacher (and older), that  didn’t seem like it was too far from the truth. 

But now, I have experienced it in a way that makes me realize, it’s really the truth. I haven’t retired from education. But in a way, I retired being a classroom teacher. I’m no longer in charge of 22-23 children. I don’t have to make lesson plans or grade papers. Now I am in a position that allows me to help teachers and students. Now, I analyze data, coach teachers, tutor students (both during the day and after school), and pitch in wherever I'm needed.  The main difference is, I don't have to make lesson plans (per se), grade papers, enter grades, or have classroom management.  I have to say, it's caused me to reflect on the toll my profession took, not only on me, but my family.

My POV: The first few months of school, I found myself coming home at night and asking myself, "What do I do with my time?"  For the first time in my career (29 years), I literally had nothing to do school wise.  No papers need to be graded, no plans to make, no worrying if I had gotten to everything, no worrying if I had enough copies, enough materials, enough of anything.  

I planned dinners and ACTUALLY make them.  We have eaten out less because I can come home and cook.  It also helps that even though I leave early in the morning to go workout (at the gym by 5:30 am), I can text my family and ask them to leave out something in the sink to thaw.  If my kids need help with homework, I can help them without worrying about what I'm having to put off to do it.  I have found out that I do better if I work out in the mornings.  I get up at 5:00 am, and hit the gym by 5:30 am.  I can get in a workout, cool down, and change clothes at the gym and still be at work by 7:00 am.  That's another noticeable difference.  I usually was at work by 6:45 am to make sure I could get last minute items ready.  I always made sure that I was home by 4:30 pm so I could help the kids with activities, get them to sports practices, and be (what I thought of as) present.  

I'd like to think that I did what I promised myself I'd do as a mom: be at my kids' sporting events, make sure they experienced what we could, and made them fell loved.  I'm sure every mom has those moments of "did I do enough? Was I enough? Are they ready?"  I'm finding that all I know for sure is, I did my best. My son is thriving in college, learning that he's more than an athlete, he's smart, funny, and learning to adult.  My daughter is just as amazing.  She's frugal, funny, seeing that she's more than an athlete, she's smart, sticks to her guns, and also learning to adult.  

In a down moment recently, I realized that when my kids look back at their childhoods, they'd see a mom who was always tired, had a messy house, lost her temper at low moments, and wasn't "present".  Teaching was a big contributor to that.  Not only because of the ridiculous demands that the education agency placed on us, but because I cared.  I voiced this fear to Kevin, not knowing that my son was nearby and heard.  As I got ready for bed, he came in and said, "I'm realizing, now that I'm older, that adulting is hard.  I just want you to know that when I look back at my childhood, I'll remember a mom who was strong, fearless, and amazing.  It's hard for me to be an adult and care for myself.  I am amazed and proud of how hard you worked to make sure we had a normal childhood.  When I look back, I see a mom who loved me and Caroline.  Who fought hard and often went outside her comfort zone because we needed her to.  Yeah, she had the help of her family, but when push came to shove, she rose to the occasion.  So what if she took a nap on Saturday or Sunday, so what if our house was messy, so what if dinners were sometimes macaroni and cheese with a vegetable thrown in for good measure.  She did the best she could with what life threw at her. That's what I'll remember about my mom when I look back at my childhood."

Since I have been in my new position, I have been able to do more with the kids.  This is Caroline's senior year of high school.  During her last season of volleyball (ever), I was able to participate in some of the traditions and volunteer more.  She and I have cooked dinner together, gone on Diet Dr. Pepper runs to simply check-in with each other, and navigate looking for a college.  She is my traveler.  I know she feels like she hasn't gone anywhere interesting like some of the kids she knows at school.  But she's been all over the US, from coast to coast.  I hope that she is braver than me and travels to far away places.   

But the environment for teachers is a stressful one more so now than ever before.  State legislatures all over the country are passing laws that pit parents against the school systems.  I recently posted an FYI to a local social media page, and the comments went in a totally different direction.  The post was a simple, "hey, you should know your rights as parents as they exist today."  But the comments went in a direction that ended up pitting two people against each other.  In the end, my point was, "Make an appointment with your child's teacher.  They want you, as the parent, to be just as informed as you can be since we are working together to educate your child."  The atmosphere in communities has also become contentious.  Teachers and students end up in the crossfire, and then you have what is happening where I live.  Superintendents are retiring/resigning.  Teachers are risking their certifications and leaving.  There is a substitute shortage in schools, teachers are taking days, getting sick, or resigning because it is just too much.  I fear for our children.  I fear for my children as they try to figure out what they will become when they graduate college.  All of this wears on a person.  A teacher who cares is faced with challenges from parents, state institutions, students who are struggling to catch up, students who are unruly, parents who are tired, demands to "bridge the gap" but no time allowed to do that because state standardized tests can't be delayed.  I'm not seeing it just in Texas.  It's all over.  

So for me, the saying is true.  Teachers who retire do look better, rested, and more carefree.  I haven't retired yet (I officially can next year), and I won't either.  At least not until Caroline graduates from college. But without the stress of being in a classroom day in and day out, I have become a better version of my old self.  And that allows me to be the support that teachers/students need, the more "present" mom my kids need, and a better person all around.

Tuesday, November 30, 2021

Oh Christmas Tree, Oh Christmas Tree...

 When I was little, we had a tradition of going to the Christmas Tree lot and picking out our Christmas Tree the weekend after we returned from Thanksgiving.  I'm sure it's a familiar tradition for a lot of people: you pile into the car, scatter at the lot, pick out your choice and then spend the remaining time going around to each person's tree and trying to "sell it" to the rest of your family.  It couldn't be too tall, too prickly, few holes (or at least it could be turned to the wall to disguise it).  We did this EVERY year.  

Until...we didn't.  

One year, my mom had to go up to Oklahoma for some reason and we didn't have a tree.  It looked like the tradition would miss a year.  My memory of that time is sketchy because I don't remember if she was up there on weekends and then worked during the week, or if she was up there for a long time.  I do know that we didn't have a tree.  One day, my older sister suggested that we go on our own.  She had a car, she could drive, and mom had left money for us to get a tree.  So one Saturday morning, Sara, Kirsten and I loaded up in her car and drove to the Christmas Tree Lot.  We'd been going there for YEARS and the owner remembered us and inquired about why it was just the three of us.  Kirsten explained the situation, and we went off to find The One.  We scaled it down because well, we realized what many children realize as they get older...that having to do it yourself changes your expectations.  We hadn't really had any preparation or training for how to do this because our mom had always taken care of it.  Up to that point, we just were passengers along for the ride.

We eventually settled on a small tree that could fit on our coffee table, was easy to transport, and would fit on top of Kirsten's car.  The owner of the lot had the tree placed on top of the car and gave us instructions on what to do when we got home.  He understood the situation and set out to help.  

I remember that Christmas not because my mom was gone, but because my sisters and I did things together to make sure the season was just as fun.  The rest of the story goes like this: my mom was up in Oklahoma on Christmas Day.  My sisters and I woke up and got ready for opening presents, but it didn't feel the same.  So we decided to pack up our presents (and my mom's) and drive to Oklahoma.  Four hours later, we celebrated the day with my mom and grandparents.  It was a fun surprise for my mom and a great memory for me.

This year, I bought a small live tree and decorated it with lights.  For some reason, it makes me think of that time my sisters and I lugged a small tree home to keep a tradition alive.


Saturday, July 10, 2021

South Dakota


 Recently, Kevin and I had the opportunity to take a vacation together.  Just us, no kids.  It was kind of a foreign concept.  The last trip that I can remember going on without the kids was to Toronto, Ontario, Canada with my sister.  But that was at least 15 years ago.  Since then, I have spent time away from the kids, but they were the ones going to far off places.  Caroline went to Marine Biology camp in North Caroline two years in a row and Jack went to football camps.  I usually stayed home.  This year, I was the one going away and they were staying home.  

The idea for the trip started when Kevin and his sisters were trying to figure out a time where they could all meet up.  Kevin had asked me when the best time for me to go on a trip would be, and I told him June or the first two weeks of July. In the end, the times didn't work out for everybody, so Kevin will go in August (when I am back at school).  We were both kind of bummed because we'd been looking forward to the trip.  One day, Kevin said, "Let's just go somewhere else."  

This was easier said than done.  I have been all over the east (from the Mississippi River to the East coast) except for a few states.  Kevin, having grown up in Eastern Washington state, had been to a lot of places in the West and over to Yellowstone.  I wanted to go somewhere where neither of us had been.  That's when I remembered that I that I had always wanted to go and see Mt. Rushmore, but there was also another reason.

For twelve years, I taught fourth grade ELAR (one of those years I taught all subjects).  For several of those years, we read a Time for Kids article about Crazy Horse and the Crazy Horse Memorial.  I also wanted to visit that. Kevin agreed, and so we began to plan.  

We planned to spend 5 days traveling and site seeing, and save money by camping.  We bought a tent that would go on the back of his truck and picked out the essentials we would need from our camping stores.  

The overall trip was so amazing and there were many lessons learned.  I am so glad that I had the opportunity to go and visit such a beautiful state.  If you ever get the chance to go, take it.  You won't regret it.

Thursday, March 25, 2021

I'll Take That

 I am not going to lie, teaching can be really difficult.  But it is also rewarding.  Beyond words, it is rewarding.  The every day conversations with students, the new information they learn, and their perspectives are always interesting. Here is a compilation of recent interactions that made an otherwise difficult day rewarding:

*Your pupils do WHAT?!!

Lessons can sometimes go off the rails quickly (remember "Dr. Seuss was a serial killer"?) However, they can sometimes go off rails in a good way.  During one of my small groups, we were reading a mystery that took place at night in a dark house.  One student asked how they could see without a flashlight.  So, we stopped and took a moment to Google how that is possible.  They learned that your pupils dilate and constrict to let light in.  The darker the room, the bigger your pupils.  They were skeptical.  But the rest of the class also became interested in our conversation.  So, we decided to stop what we were doing and do an experiment.  The lights were turned off, the blinds were closed, and the kids were allowed to get out their flashlights on their phones.  Keeping masks on, desk shields up, and instructions on where to shine the flashlight, we conducted our experiment.  Both students sat and stared at each other.  One student brought the flashlight up to point at the person's nose, and they observed the other student's pupils.  Each time someone did that, there were "OH MY GOSH!!! THAT IS SO COOL!!!!!!" The partners then switched.  We didn't get the reading lesson done (it was finished the next day), but the kids were fascinated by what they'd learned.  

*Mrs. Huffman?  Are you okay?

We have a student who gets overwhelmed really quickly (I mean, who doesn't really?) Yesterday during recess, he sat down in the middle of the basketball court and put his jacket hood over his head.  Several students went to check on him, but he wouldn't move.  I went to make sure he was okay, and when I asked, he simply said, "No.  No I'm not."  I sat down next to him and asked what was on his mind (thinking someone had done or said something to him).  He simply said, "I miss my Granny."  His grandmother recently passed away, and he was just missing her.  Boy, did I know how he felt.  I was missing my mom recently, so I told him that.  I told him that when my mom knew that I was missing my grandmother, we lay in the grass and look up at the sky and think about them.  He asked if we could do that, so I agreed.  We both laid down on the concrete and looked up at the sky.  I asked him questions about his grandmother and he asked about my mom.  

At one point, I heard, "Um, Mrs. Huffman?  Is that you?" (I mean, who else would it have been, right?).  I answered that yes, it was me.  To which the young lady said, "Um.  Are you okay?  Did you fall?" The young man and I just giggled, and I told her I was fine.  The young man I was with explained what we were doing and why.  The girl said, "Can I join y'all?  I miss my grandma too."  After about a minute or so, we had several kids laying on the concrete telling funny stories about their grandmas.  

Finally, we all got up to play the rest of recess.  One girl told a boy that he should probably help me up.  "You're getting older," was her answer.  Boy that young man took his job seriously and helped me all the way up.  

*Silver is precious.

I was meeting with my Literature Circle group yesterday and they were finishing up an assignment that I had asked about.  One girl, out of the blue, says, "Oh cool!  Mrs. Huffman! You have silver in your hair!"  Now, this could've been taken several ways.  However, I just said, "Yeah, well, I'm getting old."  One young man in the group got kind of indignant about that statement.  He said, "You're not old!  In my family, we say that silver is a precious metal.  So, if you're lucky enough to have silver in your hair, you are precious.  So, Mrs. Huffman, you are precious, not old."

I like that explanation better.


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